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What does it mean when a guy says he doesn't want to ruin the friendship? Is he rejecting me or is there another explanation? Why would a guy choose not to risk the friendship if he has feelings for me?

10.06.2025 00:18

What does it mean when a guy says he doesn't want to ruin the friendship? Is he rejecting me or is there another explanation? Why would a guy choose not to risk the friendship if he has feelings for me?

Can you act and play a part in your life forever? Most likely not. Most people are not good actors. Even actors can play a role indefinitely without succumbing to tiredness. What would the girlfriend or wife say when the “ex” reaches out? I know I’m not jealous but does the guy know what he wants? Those are just things people say and ask because that’s how our world is run.

So yes, in all short friendships and acquaintanceships, it was always ruined because someone had feelings and someone can’t figure out to talk to them without telling them no or developing feelings again. Let me reiterate: all. Like 95–99%, and almost indefinitely.

Let’s just say, it’s much easier to try to understand how things usually work than trying to solve something that hasn’t worked. Sometimes, crushes do need to remain crushes unless both people are available, and ...

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I think I do need to treat my guy friends and female friends differently unfortunately. And for the guys, give them lots of space or let them start the conversation sometimes.

Of course, everyone is going to understand it differently. Even the most analytical or intelligent or experienced person is going to say it in the same way, because it’s not a problem you can solve—ever. Is it a problem to avoid? Sure. But just know that it’s as unsolvable as death.

A lot of times, people have complicated life with secrets and struggles that they don’t seem to want to talk about. No matter how much I see someone and am friendly for 1 year or more, there usually still a sense that I don’t know them. I think that being in a relationship is a lot more different. It’s way more intimate and you might share everyday of your life, so you make sure the relationship you’re in is comfortable.

Hello, I have a question about astral projection. I started to get interested in this a little while after my mum passed in april. I thought I may be able to see her and speak with her if I managed to achieve astral projection. Since this interest, every time i sleep on my back I go into sleep paralysis. However, I cant progress into astral projection because it is very scary for me as I feel like I'm suffocating when this happens. I panic and force myself to wake up. This only ever happened about once a year before this. It sometimes lasts a long time. This has happened about 3 times per week since my mum died, as mentioned on a previous post. I no longer try to go into it anymore(due to the suffocating feeling), but it still happens. I read that sleep paralysis is the pathway to astral projection. Why has this started to happen so frequently since simply taking an interest in it? Is this connected to the afterlife? I am concerned about it as I now cannot seem to stop this happening. Could it be my mum trying to communicate? Im asking due to more knowledge around this in this group.

I think that most people do lose friendships when interested. So far despite not being in a friendship, I can count at least 5 guys who were friendly for a while- but they were nice because they were trying to “date”. For them, it was all or nothing. I wasn’t able to act like a “bro” to them either. In the end, it gets confusing, and the confusing vibes is what drives people away. It’s easier to not have to deal with discomfort. It’s also easier to not change what was weird. In the end, the friendship is ruined and you can’t just force closeness on someone who doesn’t want to interact with you.

It’s a really strange phenomenon. I don’t understand it either because I usually don’t date guys who are my friend and if I did, they usually weren’t super close friends, so it hurts but not as much as losing a friend of 1+ years.

I wished someone told me earlier that a friendship can be ruined by a relationship. It makes it so much painful and guess what’s usually the solution? Just replace and patch it up with a different experience. Yup, just find a better patch or a better relationship until it’s not possible.

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